I bet you all know the drill too: All evidence on the effects of parental separation suggests that the single most damaging consequence on children is conflict between the parents. Basically the consequences of why or how your spouse leaves you may mean everything to you, and to how much they shatter your heart, ego and finances, but they all pale into insignificance when it comes to your children and conflict with their other parent.
Ok, so I know the theory, I know it means I have to avoid conflict with T. But what about practice?…
I am so sad, so angry, and above all so scared of being hurt again, that hearing his voice on the phone when he rang the children last night immediately triggered a panic response in me. I could not bear it. So how can I be expected to be rational and level-headed when it comes to negotiating the many issues co-parenting will inevitably throw our way ?
Especially watching my son being hurt every other weekend when only his sister goes to stay with the guy they both used to call daddy.
I feel lost.
Coldplay – Lost: